Hey everyone! I hope you’re having a great day! It’s pretty chilly this morning in Maine today but that’s nothing new. Anyways, I want to start building the foundation of the mindset that has changed my life. I’m sure you can probably read that in a lot of places, “Blah blah blah has changed my life”. Honestly, most of it is just a line that people try to use to get you to buy some crap or pay attention to them. Yes, I do want you to pay attention to this, but I also mean it with the real sincerity when I tell you it changed my life, and the way I see life, and I hope it can have and affect on you to.
It’s really a super simple mindset based of off four simple ideas that I came up with to help create a more opportunistic life style. It’s my belief that a life full of opportunity will lead you down the path of success. I want you to have as many possible doorways of life open to you, so that you can pick and choose where you want to go. This foundation will ultimately lead you to a life of freedom, confidence, success, and most importantly happiness.
The first part of this is being dedicated. Find what it is that you want to do, or that you want to change and really commit yourself to it. However, I want to give you an example of what not to do, and it’s something I did for years! So, I’ll show you my mistake. I want, and still do desire to be a more fit and muscular individual, fitness and health and very important to me. For the longest time, probably from about 14-18 years old every time I would tell myself I need to make a change I would fail. It didn’t make sense to me because I was dedicating myself to what I needed to do. The problem was I was over doing it. Every waking moment was consumed by thoughts of how to improve my fitness. It became too much for me to actually be able to do, so I failed. The take away from this is simple: Dedication is not obsession.
Along with being dedicated, it is also very important to remain open. By this I mean let new things happen. How will you ever meet the love of your life, or find the perfect path for you, or maybe even learn some new things that you’ve always wanted to learn, if you’re not open to letting that happen. Life is full of truly amazing gifts, let them be given to you! Keeping yourself open leads to so many possibilities that you have the freedom to choose where you want to go.
Along with being open is being available. I mean this in a few different ways. First of all you need to be available to yourself. You are the most important person in your life, so you need to take care of yourself. Give yourself a day to relax, get a massage or a pedicure. Whatever it is that relaxes you take some time to do that every once in a while.
Being available also means spending time with your loved ones. It’s very easy to get so caught up in work and taking care of yourself that you neglect to share time with the people you love. I’ve been there, lucky for me my loved ones would tell me to stop and pay attention to them for once. Eventually I caught on, but I don’t want you to have to get the hit in the face (literally) that I did to learn the importance of loved ones. Spending time with them, and having their support will ultimately lead to your success.
The last part of availability is being available to life. Life can change in the blink of an eye if you let it. Keeping yourself available for those changes can be amazing. For example having the availability to take a trip of a life time that you thought you could never do in a million years, but all of the sudden its possible. Do it! Be ready for that. The last thing I want is for you to ever say, “man I wish…” or “man I regret not doing…”. Life is short, and it wants you to have the most out of it, so be available for it.
The fourth pillar to this mind set, and what really caps off the foundation is being focused. Many people think that focus and dedication are one in the same. However I see focus more and envisioning where you want to be. This is a lot more about visualization, and believing in yourself. Knowing that you can accomplish what you set out to do.
So, quick wrap up. 1. Dedication. Be ready to do what you have to do to get to where you want to be. It is not obsession. 2. Openness. Life has lots of gifts it wants to share with you, let it. 3. Availability. To yourself, to your family, and to life. 4. Focus. Visualize where you want to be, and know you can get there.
It all seems simple right? That’s because it is! I’m not writing to make you try to bend over backwards and climb a tree with one arm behind your back while blindfolded. No. My goal is to give you the simplest tricks that elude a lot of people, including myself for awhile, that will lead you to a much more confident and happy life.
That’s all for today, if you liked this article please do share with your friends and family or just someone you know who may be going through a rough patch. If you ever want someone to talk to feel free to shoot me an email, id love to hear from you. As always I hope you have a great day, and I’ll talk to you again soon!
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